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We threw a small party last night and, for much of it, everyone sat in a wide circle that pretty much covered the entire living room.
It was a good time, that lasted well into the wee hours of this morning, but more than the individual laughs or the general merriment — I’m grateful for that circle.
It’s not an entirely common thing to have happen, even at a small party. We were playing games, which necessitated the assembly into a group or groups — but as the night rolled on and the good times continued it really became, for me, more about the palpable connection, ease, mutual relaxation and enjoyment, that lit up the room.
No one spent much time on their phones. Side conversations developed and then dissipated into the ongoing general laughter. In-jokes were born, new acquaintances developed, few of us seemed to want it to end until it just ended.
I mention all this because — I cherish that easiness. It’s still something of a new sensation for me. I’ve had fun in the past, but there was often a tension to it, a desperation even.
Perhaps its growth, maturity, or luck. The right mix of people at the right time. Whatever the reason, I’m glad to have been part of the circle for a few precious hours.
We need such moments, to ground us, to remind us of how simple our needs are, how easily met if we show up, surround ourselves with good people, relax, and trust in customs that have been around since the beginning.